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Teen Opens Up About Having Sex and Marrying Estranged Father, Are There Legal Ramifications?

January 18, 2015  |  Posted by: Giovanni DePhillips
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The 18-year-old teenaged girl who has openly came out about her consensual sexual relationship between her and father, says they have plans to wed.

The woman, whose identity has not been revealed, was conceived at her parents’ prom. She was raised by her mother who she claims is bipolar, and after her estranged father contacted her on Facebook, they both recently reconnected.

In an interview with New York Magazine, the teen opened up about what most people deem as a disturbing and in many places, illegal relationship.

The article also details a syndrome called Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) which usually happens when adults reunite with their offspring after being separated after long periods of time.

The woman described in candid detail their first sexual encounter, which took place after she had visited her dad. At the time she was a virgin.

During the trip, her father noticed her figure on a shopping trip and she sensed a deeper connection the way he spoke to her.

On the first day they reconnected she thought to herself he was “so good looking, I thought to myself, what is wrong with you?”

On the fifth day of the trip, the father and daughter engaged in a playful wrestling match which led to full-blown sexual intercourse.

“It was insanely sensual. It lasted for about an hour and there was a lot of foreplay,” she said.

“We both had orgasms. We are so similar, so it’s so easy to sexually please each other. For example, we both love neck-biting. I’ve never been in a more passionate, loving, fulfilling situation.”

The woman said she instantly clicked with her father because of their similarities. They both liked The Simpsons and The Big Bang Theory, for example.

Ironically she even took her father as her date to prom. Only her closest friend knew that the older paramour was also her father.

Only the father’s ex girlfriend and who happens to be the couple’s roommate and the man’s parents also know the truth.

“Everyone on my mom’s side of the family sees us as father and daughter,” the woman told Science of Us.

The woman said their upcoming wedding would represent their “uniqueness”.
But what are the legal ramifications of this illicit relationship? There is no federal law that makes incest illegal. Laws differ in each state.

She stated: “We plan to move to New Jersey where we can be safe under the law, since adult incest isn’t illegal there, and once I’m there I’ll tell everyone.”

What the misinformed woman doesn’t know is that Incestuous marriages are void under New Jersey state law, however the Garden State doesn’t bar consenting adults who are related from having sex and carries no criminal penalty for incest as long as both are consenting adults.

Former Morris County Prosecutor Robert Bianchi told NJ Advance Media that so long as certain criteria were met, a sexual relationship between the two may be legal.

“So long as she’s not mentally incapacitated, they’re both over the age of 18, and there’s no physical force or coercion, or he’s not otherwise subject to specific parole stipulations,” Bianchi said.

The woman told the magazine she’d had little contact with her father from the age of five through the age of 15, when he reached out to the woman’s mother and asked to reconnect with the woman.

The magazine doesn’t expressly indicate when the relationship became sexual or the state in which the couple resides, just that they are from the Great Lakes region.

In New Jersey, a parent who has sex with their child under the age of 18 can be charged both with sexual assault and endangering the welfare of a child, Bianchi said.

Given the length of the alleged relationship, Bianchi said, “an inventive prosecutor” could argue that the woman may have been mentally incapacitated because she’s been a victim of abuse.

“If I had a doctor that believed that, I’d argue, as a prosecutor, that she had been groomed, sexually abused and can’t really make a competent decision,” Bianchi said. “She may be mentally incapacitated because she’s a victim of abuse.”

“I don’t want to condone, as a prosecutor, those fathers who have a predilection for having sex with their children, that they can start grooming (their children) illegally, and, say, ‘you can’t touch me now,’ when they turn 18,” he said. “It all depends on the quality of the facts.”

The woman also told the magazine the two plan on having children together. Experts say the children of closely related people — including siblings, ancestor and a descendant — often suffer from profound and normally rare genetic ailments.

“Once I’m there I’ll tell everyone. I’ll call my mom and let her know that we are in love and we are having children.”

She is not worried about the medical complications that can arise when incestuous couples reproduce.

And she insists others should cut the pair some slack.

“I just don’t understand why I’m judged for being happy. We are two adults who brought each other out of dark places. People need to research incest and GSA because they don’t get it and I don’t think they understand how often it happens.

The article seems to use the argument of GSA not as a way of condoning such a relationship, but more as an excuse, the truth is GSA is not a scientific fact backed up by scientific research.

And for the young woman in the article, a case could easily be laid out for prosecuting her father, as Samantha Allen’s Daily Beast article published yesterday correctly points out:

The woman has “abandonment issues” she has surrounding his childhood absence, that she “didn’t really have a social life” as a teenager, and that he tries to re-initiate contact when she is “about 15.” Once they connect, he bonds with her over their favorite TV shows, cuddles with her overnight, and takes her shopping for shorts the next day.

Of the young woman’s own admission, she was isolated, depressed, and bullied in school but started to feel “more confident” and “much more attractive” after forming a sexual relationship with her father.

The full context of the relationship cannot be fully ascertained from the interview but the details we do have could certainly be used to support an interpretation in which a man in his 30s earns the trust of his 17-year-old daughter only to abuse that trust—and her vulnerability—for sexual reasons.

Allen correctly point out the legal facts for prosecution, no matter how anyone words it, consensual incest is still rape and in this case there should be the legal ground for prosecution.

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